The purpose of Rage Club is to change your relationship to the feeling and emotion of anger so you can consciously and productively use the energy and information of anger as an adult in your daily life, without being possessed or overwhelmed by it.
In modern culture we are deeply conditioned to believe that it is not okay to be angry because, “Anger is one of the negative feelings,” and “anger is dangerous, loud, embarrassing, uncivilized”. When you learn to own your anger and use it responsibly, you get clarity and can act, protect yourself and avoid creating victim-drama-stories.
Rage Clubs are an extremely safe learning environment allowing you to reconnect to the adult and archetypal power and intelligence of your anger.
The use of conscious adult anger starts when the anger becomes the tool to:
distinguish between your feelings and other people's feelings.
In other words, to do the next amazing thing in your life!
Online and Offline Rage Club Offers
INTRO TO RAGE CLUB
one 2h - 3h session online or offline
Rage Club is a brilliantly clear and fun place to morph your frustration into your own decisiveness power:
You are locked at home and the frustration grows everyday.
You feel tired and depressed even after sleeping all night and doing nothing all day.
You sense that you have a mission to accomplish but don't know where to start.
You miss adventure and aliveness.
You are with your children and you've lost hope to set boundaries with them that they respect. Maybe this applies also to your partner.
You are annoyed at the sloppiness in agreements and wish for more clarity.
You have participated in Rage Clubs before and long for the space!
Doing a Rage Club online - and therefore at home - requires special attention to not disturb the neighbors. I will show you how to do this and still play full out!
Investment: 10 -20 €/$/£
RAGE CLUB SERIES
4 or more consecutive weeks
2h30 per session
Participating in a closed Rage Club is a commitment to be on the Team and explore together the multitude of facets of anger for all 4 weeks.
This includes: four 2h30 sessions and inclusion in a WhatsApp group to share and support each other during the four weeks.
how to keep your center and attention, even in face of ‘authority’ and distractions
how to say ‘No’ and ’Stop' and ‘Yes'
how to make commitments that change who you are, a change that shows up in your actions
how to use low intensity anger (between 1-20%) in your every day life (to make decisions, say what you want, negotiate intimacy, clear out things, and unleash the mysterious intelligence of your feelings that has so long been suppressed)
how to use ordinary and archetypal levels of anger as a neutral source of energy and information
etc, depending on your necessity.
Investment: starts at 80 €/$/£ (for 4 weeks)
Limit: 25 participants
4 or more consecutive weeks
2h30 per session
PREREQUISITE: you have participated in a 4-week Rage Club Series, and you have intention to be a spaceholder for Rage Club.
PURPOSE: Our intention is to pass on to you everything you need to deliver your own online Rage Clubs, such as:
Holding and Navigating Space
Setting context with clarity, power and lightness
Rolling the energy in the space from one exercise to the next
Facing Gremlin resistance and attack
Distinguishing when emotional healing processes are needed
Spontaneously creating exercises and experiments for the matrix of your participants
Matching the exercises to the next steps of each participants
How to build a Team among the participants from the very first session
How to announce and invite people into your Rage Club
"Legends are spreading about Rage Club to the point where it made the local news (Golden Bay, NZ - https://www.stuff.co.nz/), and when I went to pay for our venue at the council offices, the woman at the counter had read the article about Rage Club and thought it sounded great!!! A council officer!! Then the other day at the market, a man who didn't know I was a Rage Club spaceholder started sharing this amazing legend about one of the exercises from our previous Rage Club that a friend had told him about, and I had to laugh a lot that he was sharing this legend with me...
I feel Joy about Rage Club legends spreading all over the world."
"Quite a few times in the check-in I and others have felt tired and would have actually preferred to sit on the couch having a quiet night... and then in the check-out I felt amazingly refreshed and happy, very connected to myself and the others in the group. And it felt so meaningful."
Nicola Scheibitz, Rage Club Participant in Ravensburg, Germany
"I want to say that I feel so much love and gratitude for the work that you do. Since my session with Daniel, the Rage Club and Fear Club, I feel more embodied and more aware of what’s shifting for me. I have been able to go deeper into my trauma like I haven’t done before on the physical level (just as the spiral of healing you mentioned yesterday)."
Breath worker, Rage Club (and Fear Club) participant in London, UK
Rage Club Practices For Owning Your RAGE
Each Rage Club Session can include practicing together one or more
of the following practical daily-life applications of anger:
That day, nothing was working my way. After a few hours of growing rage, I called up a friend. Weirdly enough, he was experiencing the same situation! After a solid fifteen minutes of serious complaining on both side, I asked him “What do you do with the anger when nothing seems to be working?”. He said: “I use my anger to do the next thing”.
The Power Of Conscious Anger: From Destructive To Transformative
Taking our own emotions seriously is not only an act of self-respect, but also a political one. It is about accepting what arises as part of us, learning to give it its rightful place back, to potentialize its information and energy into creativity, inspiration and transformation.
Rage was almost totally displaced from my life for almost all of my life. And for sure the conscious and ‘not-gremlin’ one. As I was growing up in Poland, this bizarre country in the middle of Europe in ’90s, I didn’t know anybody who could have taught me how to feel, express and use my anger in a safe way.
Why You Need Anger To Create Fulfilling Relationships
Why do you need anger to create fulfilling relationships? You might want say that anger destroys relationships and I would agree: too much unconscious anger can do that. And in the same way, too little conscious anger can keep you from really being in relationship.
My earliest memories about anger go back to when I was around 4 years old. My mother and my father are fighting with each other. I do not understand why they hurt each other with words. I want them to stop. Why do people fight like this? Shortly after they separated.
La plupart du temps, j’essaie d’ignorer ou d’engourdir ma colère et de me convaincre que cela fonctionne. À la place, je veux plaire tout le monde et, en cachette, j’accumule en moi des non-dits sans être consciente. Oui, je le vois : je me mens concernant ma relation avec la colère. Alors, pourquoi je me suis inscrite à ce cours, maudite marde ?
Ich benutze Wut um diesen Artikel zu schreiben. Ich benutze Wut um mir die Nase zu putzen. Ich benutze Wut wenn ich etwas ändern will, in Beziehungen für Klarheit sorge und den Redefluss von Klienten in meinen Sitzungen unterbreche, um mit ihnen einen Schritt weiter zu kommen.
On the fifth day of a temporary magic school, it became obvious that the soil in the magicians and sourceresses had been prepared enough for their Dragons to sprout and flame-up the world with a certain kind of poetry. I was one of the Dragon Speakers. Here what I as my Dragon said.
Ich komme aus einem Umfeld in dem mir beigebracht wurde, dass Gefühle nicht OK sind. Es super ist, wenn man gefühlsmäßig taub ist. Eine hohe Taubheitsschwelle hat. Das heißt, wenn mich jemand angreift, verletzt oder beleidigt so zu tun als würde es mich nicht berühren.
When I tell my friends that I’m doing Anger Practice or Rage Club Spaceholder training, a part of me cringes and shrinks. Not wanting to toot my own horn, draw attention to myself or make people uncomfortable. Rage Club? That sounds intriguing comes the response at times.
Have you ever been so filled with rage that you don't know how you could ever express its fullness? You feel the rage bubbling up into all aspects of your physicality; shaking, clenching teeth, fists, and stamping feet? Do you wonder how you could be filled with so much emotion – questioning; 'what's wrong with me!?'
Mut zur Wut: Warum es sich lohnt, die eigene Wutkraft zu befreien (DE)
Der Entschluss mich nun tatsächlich hinzusetzen und diesen Artikel zu schreiben fiel in dem Moment, in dem ich wütend wurde. In dem ich die Wut in mir aufsteigen spürte. Wut darüber, dass ich immer noch nicht schreibe.
Have you ever ask yourself why when you are pissed of at someone or something, you can feel such intense, violent energy that fills all your body ? Have you ever wonder what to do with all that? I can guess you have even thought that you had lost your mind. In any case, I would sincerely tell you that you are not alone on this, and you are not crazy at all.
And if something has already been done, why would you want to do the exact same thing again? Will that fulfil the deepest longings that are throbbing away in your heart and soul? Will that feed you the way you have been dreaming of for so long?
Your Greatest Anger Mirrors What You Came Here To Do
If the idea resonates that you may have a mission, a task, a service, a contribution to make to the evolution of humanity, which was self-assigned before you were born, specifically trained-for through significant, perhaps even brutal childhood experiences, then this experiment may open new doors for you.
People sometimes told me they don't know where they stand with me, what I am thinking. This was understandable because I hid a lot. Sometimes I hid how much I cared. When I was upset, I often hid the ways I felt hurt. I was passive and distant instead. I never realized this pattern was related to my unwillingness to feel anger. Looking back though, it’s painfully obvious. I couldn't admit I had boundaries because then I would have to be upset if anyone crossed them. I was so committed to not overreacting, I underreacted constantly.
Adult and Archetypal anger are hugely powerful forces. Because you live in a culture that pretends these forces do not exist, you have never had a path for accessing them. Lacking a path, you have remained unable to use your anger to create, destroy, declare, commit, hold space, empower, set boundaries, make distinctions, heal, and much more.
Getting your anger back requires practice. A critical practice is the 3-3-3 initiation. The 3-3-3 initiation goes like this: 3 minutes a day 3 days a week for 3 months, you lie down on your bed or on a soft surface, and you go into high-intensity rage for no reason. At the end of each session, you remain on your back for a minute or two minutes, allowing the energy of your anger to circulate through your body. (It is best to breathe through your nose even though you might be breathing heavily. This is because breathing from your mouth tends to blow out rather than integrate the energy experienced in the 3-3-3. Breathing through your nose keeps the energy in your body and allows it to circulate.)
Over the course of 3 months of practice, you will gradually get your anger back. You will blow out the dust and cobwebs that have taken up residence in your energetic and emotional body. You will come back to life.
During your 3-3-3 initiation or just after its completion, write a 2 - 3 page article detailing your experience and who you have become. You will not be the same person you were when you started the initiation.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.01 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Share your article link. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
DIVE INTO DAILY RAGE CLUB WRITING TERRITORIES
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.02
Your anger has a lot to say. If you have never before allowed it to speak, this is doubly true. This experiment is about finally giving your anger a voice.
During the 4 - 6 weeks of your Rage Club, spend 8 or 15 minutes with a pen and paper every single day letting your anger speak. Begin with the prompt "I feel angry because..." or "I am so pissed off that..." or "I stand for..." or "I love my anger because..." Then, write without thinking for the entirety of the session. Let the words flow out. Do not worry if it does not make sense. Do not worry if you write things you have never thought or said out loud before. Just go. Just let the pen fly.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.02 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Complete this sentence: "I feel so angry about..." This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
WATCH YOUR 12 RAGE CLUB FILMS TOGETHER
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.03
The title says it all. Make a group. Get on Zoom. Watch the films.
Fight Club: The origin of Rage Club begins by taking radical responsibility for what fucking pisses you off.
Rejected (titled S.H.I.T. German)
The Mission (with Jeremy Irons and Robert de Niro.
Secret Society: Taking a stand for your unique potential requires Rage even if it is secret.
Batman Begins: Your greatest fears can transform into your greatest gifts if you practice ragefully.
Fried Green Tomatoes: If the truth offends the law it does not make the truth wrong or the the law right. Sometimes it is necessary to go over the line.
Mask of Zorro: Growing up includes a shift of identity. Anger is needed for protecting what is precious.
Freedom Writers: When you stop smiling, and empower your voice with rageful clarity, the world can change.
Dune (2021 version): Landing on your feet in new territory requires conscious rage.
Emerald Forest: Courage is anger plus fear plus commitment. Without anger, your adventure dies young.
Ender's Game: Choosing whose game you are willing to play depends on your anger.
After watching each film, enter the individual Matrix Codes (you can find those here). Then, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.03 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
After watching all 12 films together then in addition to each film's Matrix Code, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.03 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
LET ANGER MOVE YOUR FINGERS TO TYPE A 3-PAGE ARTICLE ABOUT RAGE CLUB
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.04
You already have enough experience about anger to write a transformational article about Rage Club. Possible topics for your article could be:
Using anger to set boundaries
Phase 1 and Phase 2 of Rage Work
Unconscious and Conscious Anger
4 Uses for Conscious Anger in Daily Life
The Joy of Adult Anger
In this experiment, you use your adult anger to propel you through writing a 3-page article about anger to publish publicly.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.04 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Send the link to your published article. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
ASK AT LEAST ONE DANGEROUS QUESTION AT EACH OF YOUR RAGE CLUB MEETINGS
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.05
Prepare by writing out 3 potential Dangerous Questions in your Beep! Book. Then during the meeting, choose and ask one of these, or one that is closer to the heart of the matter in real time during your Rage Club.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.05 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Share your Dangerous Questions. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
TRY TO BE AN ANGEL, A NICE PERSON, A GOOD BOY AND PEACEFUL
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.06
For an entire week, absolutely refuse to be angry, perturbed, disturbed, frustrated, annoyed, irritated or otherwise upset about anything. That includes people, places, things, events that happen and events that do not happen, your dreams at night. No matter what, try not to be angry.
While you are doing this, write down in your Beep! Book a list of things that is called, ‘Things I try not to be Angry about’. This title and list will shine a flashlight on those things that you have built-in emotional reactivity towards being angry about. Each one of the items that you find could easily be a front door to an Emotional Healing Process (EHP).
After completing your 3rd EHP from this list, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.06 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
BECOME AN ANGER POLICE DETECTIVE WOMAN
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.07
In Germany, the policewomen carry around red flashlights.Get one of these, or get a regular flashlight and put a red cover over it. You have now become an anger policewoman.
For the next 1 week, carry around your flashlight, and any time any gets angry (including yourself), turn the flashlight on and point it at them. This includes even low levels of anger. If more than one person is angry at one time, wave the flashlight around chaotically.
As an Anger Police Individual, carry around your BEEP! Book and write down what people are angry about. Increase your list until you have recorded 100 things people are angry about.
If people ask what you are doing during this experiment, tell them the truth: You are becoming more sensitive to anger in all its subtle and overt dimensions and manifestations.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.07 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.
THE FRENCH ANGER CONNECTION EXPERIMENT
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.08
In French there is an expression: "With two fingers in the nose." The expression conveys that something is very easy. For example, "I can ride a bicycle with two fingers in the nose" means that riding a bike is easy for me.
For this experiment, for one week, you will tell people 3 times a day (and a different person each time, "I can get angry so easily, as easy as having two fingers in the nose. I am an angry person." Then, you will demonstrate this ease by sharing something you are angry about. For instance: "See this toenail clipper on the table? I put it there one week ago and I did not put it back. I am angry about that." Use up to 22% anger each time, and write down the things that you could or do get angry about as short notes in your BEEP! Book.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.08 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Share one thing you got really angry about this week.
This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
BUY YOURSELF A RAGE CLUB T-SHIRT
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.09
Locate a design-your-own shirt-printing shop online, and design and order a Rage Club t-shirt. When it arrives, wear the shirt ongoingly in public for 4 days without washing it.
Wearing a Rage Club t-shirt is a great way to strike up conversation about what Rage Club is. During these 4 days, have one conversation per day with different people about Rage Club. The conversation might go something like this:
"I am so happy that I am an angry person. I discovered that I am angry person after doing a Rage Club. Some of the things that changed in my life are that I finally cleaned out all my school work and diplomas that have been in boxes for the past 50 years, I finished this painting that I could never finish before, I called up my neighbor and asked him to remove the rubbish bin to somewhere else other than in front of my porch, and told work that I am no longer available to come in on Saturdays."
Whatever you say in this conversation must be true.
At the end of the conversation, you might even consider inviting the people you speak with to join you in the next Rage Club.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.09 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Take a photo of your Rage Club T-Shirt, upload it to a stock imagery site (like Pixabay or Unsplash), and share the link to the photo. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
USE CONSCIOUS ANGER TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF: PHASE I
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.10
Most of us have been incredibly abused emotionally, energetically, verbally, physically or sexually. You might be one of these people. You might have decided as part of your survival strategy that because nobody was taking care of you, you would not take care of you either. Now that you are on a path of Adulthood initiation, you can no longer afford to not take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself is part of the program.
Your Anger is necessary for this. The first way to take care of yourself is by making boundaries.
This is a 7-day experiment. Every day, start your day by noticing right now how you are not taking care of yourself because you have not made a boundary with this person about this and that person about that. Write each of these down.
Then over the course of the week, make these boundaries. Do not do this by message. Make the boundaries in person or by phone or video call. How do you share a boundary with someone? Here are some examples:
"Hello. I changed my mind. Up to now, I have listened to your opinions about how I raise my children. I am not listening to that anymore."
"I lent you a book and I did not tell you when I want it back. I have changed my mind. I want it back this weekend."
"A month ago, I loaned you Monday. I was not clear about when I want it back. I have change my mind. I want it back on this Saturday in cash."
Or it could be a boundary with your partner, like: "Please do not talk about my mother anymore."
Whatever the other person says afterward, you say, "Thank you." If they argue about the boundary, you can use this as another opportunity to set another boundary by saying, "This conversation is over."
When you make the necessary boundaries, you will find that you can enter a way of being outside of survival and actually have living and breathing space.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.10 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Write an article about your life-changing, boundary-making week, post it online publicly, and share the link. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
USE YOUR CONSCIOUS ANGER TO SAY ‘I WANT'
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.11
The words ‘I want’ have been banished from the vocabulary of modern nice citizens. Why? Because 'I want' puts you at risk. It reveals your cards. It puts a clear, vulnerable, decisive statement on the table.
Instead of 'I want,' you make it polite by saying ‘I would like.’ You make it impersonal by saying 'What if we did this.' You disown it by saying, 'What do you want?' You make it into a child-ego-contaminated victim story by saying 'I need.'
Ongoingly for 3 consecutive days in each of your conversations, say something you want. There is always something even if you do not think there is. Instead of disguising your want in any of the manipulative phrases above or covertly seducing your conversation partner to guess what you want, use your conscious Anger to be clear and radically honest about what you want. That means starting sentences with the words, 'I want...'
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.11 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
USE YOUR CONSCIOUS ANGER TO DISCOVER ANGER IN ANIMALS
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.12
From ants and pigeons to elephants and lions, there is anger in every single species of animal. It is part of the design. Your job is to observe this firsthand.
For this experiment, go to the Zoo for one whole day alone. Start by noticing that there are some animals inside of cages and some outside of cages. The animals outside of cages include pigeons, seagulls, ants, possibly a mouse. They are free to wander inside and outside of the cages, coming and going as they please. Then there are the animals inside cages: Fish in tanks, seals in aquatic areas, big cats in fenced off cages, simians in walled-in spaces, reptiles behind glass displays.
Study the behavior of both the uncaged and the captive animals, keeping special attention on exhibitions of anger. Many of the captive animals have lived such abused lives that they are inactive and neurotically surrendered in their cages. Try to find some animals who have not yet slipped into total passivity, and observe these. You will find them if you look.
Clinton was at the San Diego zoo alone studying the great gorillas that were in an open grass hill and then a mote and then a wall. A family with two children, a mother, and a father dressed in a suit came up and stood staring at one of the gorillas. The gorilla in turn stood staring directly at the man. Clinton stood on the side, observing the interaction. With very subtle movements, without losing eye contact, the gorilla slowly put his hand behind his back and moved it slightly. It turned out he was reaching for a pile of shit, which he then flung at the man, hitting him square in the chest. This was the behavior of an angry gorilla and a stupid man.
This type of incident is rare. You can detect subtler, more common behaviors. Notice things like animals scratching themselves neurotically, biting or shaking their cages, running back and forth violently, pacing in their cages, or making faces at people.
After this, write a 2 - 3 page article about what you noticed at the zoo that includes distinctions and observations about what you experienced.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.12 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Post the link to your article. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
USE YOUR CONSCIOUS ANGER TO PAINT YOUR ANGER
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.13
Purchase a brush, some acrylic paints, and paper. In this experiment, you will be taking the alchemical action of making your anger conscious by painting scenes from your anger.
Before painting, connect with what you have anger about. This could include:
Human beings ruthlessly destroying nature for profit.
External authority figures in abusing their power over others.
Living in a culture that values money over everything else.
Psychiatrists and psychologists putting young children on prescription pills for anxiety, depression, ADHD, et cetera, instead of empowering them to feel.
Ocean fish filled with mercury.
For each of these angers, paint between 2 and 5 separate paintings. These paintings could stand alone or they could be part of a series.
Next, show the paintings to people. Hang them on a wall in your home, or make a presentation of them at your next Possibility Team. When people ask about the paintings, share about this experiment and share about your anger.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.13 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Find a free online gallery, post your paintings there, and then share the link to the gallery. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
DISCOVER YOUR CONSCIOUS ANGER WITH CHILDREN OR FRIENDS BY DESTROYING SOMETHING
Matrix Code RAGECLUB.14
This experiment could be done in a Possibility Team or with your children or with friends.
To start, meet outside. Ask everyone on your team to bring an object that does not have much value, so it would not be a problem if it were destroyed. This could be a telephone book or an old pair of shoes or a sweater or old sheets.
Start by inviting the team to turn up their anger and turn up your own. Then, have everyone grab an item from the pile and use their conscious rage to destroy it. Rip it apart, bash it on the floor, tear into with your teeth and nails, bodyslam it, smash it your feet, turn it into confetti, throw it around. You can even exchange objects with other people or trade your item for someone else's item. This is a form of Teamwork and working together.
This is a way to experience and express Schadenfreude, a compound German word that translates into Damage Joy. (English has no single word for this, which may explain a lot about the American psyche.)
At the end, take a team photo with your High-Level Fun anger destruction and upload it to Facebook, Instagram, Medium, Unsplash, or somewhere else where you can grab a link.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.14 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Send a link of your photo. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.