RAGE
CLUB
RAGE
CLUB
The purpose of Rage Club is to change your relationship to the feeling and emotion of anger so you can consciously and productively use the energy and information of anger as an adult in your daily life, without being possessed or overwhelmed by it.
In modern culture we are deeply conditioned to believe that it is not okay to be angry because, “Anger is one of the negative feelings,” and “anger is dangerous, loud, embarrassing, uncivilized”. When you learn to own your anger and use it responsibly, you get clarity and can act, protect yourself and avoid creating victim-drama-stories.
Rage Clubs are an extremely safe learning environment allowing you to reconnect to the adult and archetypal power and intelligence of your anger.
The use of conscious adult anger starts when the anger becomes the tool to:
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"Legends are spreading about Rage Club to the point where it made the local news (Golden Bay, NZ - https://www.stuff.co.nz/), and when I went to pay for our venue at the council offices, the woman at the counter had read the article about Rage Club and thought it sounded great!!! A council officer!! Then the other day at the market, a man who didn't know I was a Rage Club spaceholder started sharing this amazing legend about one of the exercises from our previous Rage Club that a friend had told him about, and I had to laugh a lot that he was sharing this legend with me...
I feel Joy about Rage Club legends spreading all over the world."
Tristan Girdwood, Rage Club Spaceholder in Golden Bay, NZ
"Quite a few times in the check-in I and others have felt tired and would have actually preferred to sit on the couch having a quiet night... and then in the check-out I felt amazingly refreshed and happy, very connected to myself and the others in the group. And it felt so meaningful."
Nicola Scheibitz, Rage Club Participant in Ravensburg, Germany
"I want to say that I feel so much love and gratitude for the work that you do. Since my session with Daniel, the Rage Club and Fear Club, I feel more embodied and more aware of what’s shifting for me. I have been able to go deeper into my trauma like I haven’t done before on the physical level (just as the spiral of healing you mentioned yesterday)."
Breath worker, Rage Club (and Fear Club) participant in London, UK
Each Rage Club Session can include practicing together one or more
of the following practical daily-life applications of anger:
Say, "I feel angry because..." rage.
Say, "No!" in 5 bodies rage.
Say, "Stop!" in 5 bodies rage.
Apple rage.
Newspaper rage.
Towel rage.
Standing rage.
Completing incomplete past anger rage.
Pre-verbal, child, Gremlin, adult rage, one after the other.
Destroy a telephone directory rage.
Running rage (or running in place rage).
Pushups rage.
Floor rage (safely held down on both arms and both legs.
Tantrum on a mattress rage (3-3-3 Exercise).
Stick work on a cushion rage.
Breaking a pencil rage.
Telephone rage (practice yelling on the phone rage).
Carrot rage (watch the video).
Pizza Dough rage. (Then make pizza!)
Standing cushion rage (boxing, punching, kicking).
Writing an article rage.
Shout curse words without repeating yourself or laughing rage.
Raging with kind words.
Make a boundary rage.
Make a distinction rage.
Land your distinction in the space rage.
Make a decision rage.
Say, "Stop!" rage.
Say, "No!" rage.
Start a new thing rage.
Stop speaking in the middle of a sentence rage.
Change your mind and tell people about your new thinking rage.
Change direction in the middle of your walking rage.
Change the song in the middle of your singing the song rage.
Escape your next prison rage.
Shouting, "I did it!" rage.
Walking through the center of town with your arms spread out wide rage.
Do not speak when someone asks you a question rage.
Ask for what you want rage.
Build a new thing rage (with paper, string, straw, wood, cloth, recycled plastic, old clothes, etc.)
Drawing on paper rage (with wax crayons, with marker pens, with paint, with finger paints, with mud).
Create Clarity rage.
Create a Gameworld rage by saying what the Rules Of Engagement are.
Being a Guardian rage - to protect the Earth, to pick up litter, to repair things, to pull weeds.
Hold Space rage (for a context, for a process).
Bokken (Japanese wooden practice sword) rage.
Escape the patriarchy rage.
Create Adventure rage.
In English & German
Brianne Vaillancourt
When I heard the word “rage”, I used to immediately think “violence”.
Aggression. Destruction. Out of control. Unreasonable. Not okay.
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Anne-Chloé Destremau
That day, nothing was working my way. After a few hours of growing rage, I called up a friend. Weirdly enough, he was experiencing the same situation! After a solid fifteen minutes of serious complaining on both side, I asked him “What do you do with the anger when nothing seems to be working?”. He said: “I use my anger to do the next thing”.
Cloé Crettaz
Taking our own emotions seriously is not only an act of self-respect, but also a political one. It is about accepting what arises as part of us, learning to give it its rightful place back, to potentialize its information and energy into creativity, inspiration and transformation.
Beata Piskaldo
Rage was almost totally displaced from my life for almost all of my life. And for sure the conscious and ‘not-gremlin’ one. As I was growing up in Poland, this bizarre country in the middle of Europe in ’90s, I didn’t know anybody who could have taught me how to feel, express and use my anger in a safe way.
Jennifer Van Damme
Have you ever felt stuck because you had the feeling that you had to do something in a way someone else wanted you to?
Oliver Arnold
Why do you need anger to create fulfilling relationships? You might want say that anger destroys relationships and I would agree: too much unconscious anger can do that. And in the same way, too little conscious anger can keep you from really being in relationship.
Kian Nasir
My earliest memories about anger go back to when I was around 4 years old. My mother and my father are fighting with each other. I do not understand why they hurt each other with words. I want them to stop. Why do people fight like this? Shortly after they separated.
Ingrid Schmithusen
La plupart du temps, j’essaie d’ignorer ou d’engourdir ma colère et de me convaincre que cela fonctionne. À la place, je veux plaire tout le monde et, en cachette, j’accumule en moi des non-dits sans être consciente. Oui, je le vois : je me mens concernant ma relation avec la colère. Alors, pourquoi je me suis inscrite à ce cours, maudite marde ?
Markus Bork
Ich benutze Wut um diesen Artikel zu schreiben. Ich benutze Wut um mir die Nase zu putzen. Ich benutze Wut wenn ich etwas ändern will, in Beziehungen für Klarheit sorge und den Redefluss von Klienten in meinen Sitzungen unterbreche, um mit ihnen einen Schritt weiter zu kommen.
Anne-Chloé Destremau & Team
ABOUT LIFE IN SLAVERY AND LONGING FOR FREEDOM
I would prefer that everything I write here would be not true.
I’d rather be able to open a Facebook chart and pretend that it’s all cool and helping others pretend it’s cool.
(And although this does not exclude the wonderfulness of life) it is not cool...
& 12 other tales of Reclaiming Authority
Anne-Chloé Destremau
On the fifth day of a temporary magic school, it became obvious that the soil in the magicians and sourceresses had been prepared enough for their Dragons to sprout and flame-up the world with a certain kind of poetry. I was one of the Dragon Speakers. Here what I as my Dragon said.
Martina Swoboda
Ich komme aus einem Umfeld in dem mir beigebracht wurde, dass Gefühle nicht OK sind. Es super ist, wenn man gefühlsmäßig taub ist. Eine hohe Taubheitsschwelle hat. Das heißt, wenn mich jemand angreift, verletzt oder beleidigt so zu tun als würde es mich nicht berühren.
Aurora Gyorffy
When I tell my friends that I’m doing Anger Practice or Rage Club Spaceholder training, a part of me cringes and shrinks. Not wanting to toot my own horn, draw attention to myself or make people uncomfortable. Rage Club? That sounds intriguing comes the response at times.
Liquid Rage
Hannah Fatima
Have you ever been so filled with rage that you don't know how you could ever express its fullness? You feel the rage bubbling up into all aspects of your physicality; shaking, clenching teeth, fists, and stamping feet? Do you wonder how you could be filled with so much emotion – questioning; 'what's wrong with me!?'
Julia Foch
Der Entschluss mich nun tatsächlich hinzusetzen und diesen Artikel zu schreiben fiel in dem Moment, in dem ich wütend wurde. In dem ich die Wut in mir aufsteigen spürte. Wut darüber, dass ich immer noch nicht schreibe.
Nayade Temes
Have you ever ask yourself why when you are pissed of at someone or something, you can feel such intense, violent energy that fills all your body ? Have you ever wonder what to do with all that? I can guess you have even thought that you had lost your mind. In any case, I would sincerely tell you that you are not alone on this, and you are not crazy at all.
Anne-Chloé Destremau
And if something has already been done, why would you want to do the exact same thing again? Will that fulfil the deepest longings that are throbbing away in your heart and soul? Will that feed you the way you have been dreaming of for so long?
Clinton Callahan
If the idea resonates that you may have a mission, a task, a service, a contribution to make to the evolution of humanity, which was self-assigned before you were born, specifically trained-for
through significant, perhaps even brutal childhood experiences, then this experiment
may open new doors for you.
Shani of skin contact
People sometimes told me they don't know where they stand with me, what I am thinking. This was understandable because I hid a lot. Sometimes I hid how much I cared. When I was upset, I often hid the ways I felt hurt. I was passive and distant instead. I never realized this pattern was related to my unwillingness to feel anger. Looking back though, it’s painfully obvious. I couldn't admit I had boundaries because then I would have to be upset if anyone crossed them. I was so committed to not overreacting, I underreacted constantly.
How to join the Team?
Your 5 Bodies change when you discover new possibilities during experiments!
Adult and Archetypal anger are hugely powerful forces. Because you live in a culture that pretends these forces do not exist, you have never had a path for accessing them. Lacking a path, you have remained unable to use your anger to create, destroy, declare, commit, hold space, empower, set boundaries, make distinctions, heal, and much more.
Getting your anger back requires practice. A critical practice is the 3-3-3 initiation. The 3-3-3 initiation goes like this: 3 minutes a day 3 days a week for 3 months, you lie down on your bed or on a soft surface, and you go into high-intensity rage for no reason. At the end of each session, you remain on your back for a minute or two minutes, allowing the energy of your anger to circulate through your body. (It is best to breathe through your nose even though you might be breathing heavily. This is because breathing from your mouth tends to blow out rather than integrate the energy experienced in the 3-3-3. Breathing through your nose keeps the energy in your body and allows it to circulate.)
Over the course of 3 months of practice, you will gradually get your anger back. You will blow out the dust and cobwebs that have taken up residence in your energetic and emotional body. You will come back to life.
During your 3-3-3 initiation or just after its completion, write a 2 - 3 page article detailing your experience and who you have become. You will not be the same person you were when you started the initiation.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.01 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Share your article link. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
Your anger has a lot to say. If you have never before allowed it to speak, this is doubly true. This experiment is about finally giving your anger a voice.
During the 4 - 6 weeks of your Rage Club, spend 8 or 15 minutes with a pen and paper every single day letting your anger speak. Begin with the prompt "I feel angry because..." or "I am so pissed off that..." or "I stand for..." or "I love my anger because..." Then, write without thinking for the entirety of the session. Let the words flow out. Do not worry if it does not make sense. Do not worry if you write things you have never thought or said out loud before. Just go. Just let the pen fly.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.02 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Complete this sentence: "I feel so angry about..." This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
The title says it all. Make a group. Get on Zoom. Watch the films.
After watching each film, enter the individual Matrix Codes (you can find those here). Then, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.03 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
After watching all 12 films together then in addition to each film's Matrix Code, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.03 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
You already have enough experience about anger to write a transformational article about Rage Club. Possible topics for your article could be:
In this experiment, you use your adult anger to propel you through writing a 3-page article about anger to publish publicly.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.04 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Send the link to your published article. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Prepare by writing out 3 potential Dangerous Questions in your Beep! Book. Then during the meeting, choose and ask one of these, or one that is closer to the heart of the matter in real time during your Rage Club.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.05 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Share your Dangerous Questions. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
For an entire week, absolutely refuse to be angry, perturbed, disturbed, frustrated, annoyed, irritated or otherwise upset about anything. That includes people, places, things, events that happen and events that do not happen, your dreams at night. No matter what, try not to be angry.
While you are doing this, write down in your Beep! Book a list of things that is called, ‘Things I try not to be Angry about’. This title and list will shine a flashlight on those things that you have built-in emotional reactivity towards being angry about. Each one of the items that you find could easily be a front door to an Emotional Healing Process (EHP).
After completing your 3rd EHP from this list, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.06 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
In Germany, the policewomen carry around red flashlights.Get one of these, or get a regular flashlight and put a red cover over it. You have now become an anger policewoman.
For the next 1 week, carry around your flashlight, and any time any gets angry (including yourself), turn the flashlight on and point it at them. This includes even low levels of anger. If more than one person is angry at one time, wave the flashlight around chaotically.
As an Anger Police Individual, carry around your BEEP! Book and write down what people are angry about. Increase your list until you have recorded 100 things people are angry about.
If people ask what you are doing during this experiment, tell them the truth: You are becoming more sensitive to anger in all its subtle and overt dimensions and manifestations.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.07 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.
In French there is an expression: "With two fingers in the nose." The expression conveys that something is very easy. For example, "I can ride a bicycle with two fingers in the nose" means that riding a bike is easy for me.
For this experiment, for one week, you will tell people 3 times a day (and a different person each time, "I can get angry so easily, as easy as having two fingers in the nose. I am an angry person." Then, you will demonstrate this ease by sharing something you are angry about. For instance: "See this toenail clipper on the table? I put it there one week ago and I did not put it back. I am angry about that." Use up to 22% anger each time, and write down the things that you could or do get angry about as short notes in your BEEP! Book.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.08 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Share one thing you got really angry about this week.
This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Locate a design-your-own shirt-printing shop online, and design and order a Rage Club t-shirt. When it arrives, wear the shirt ongoingly in public for 4 days without washing it.
Wearing a Rage Club t-shirt is a great way to strike up conversation about what Rage Club is. During these 4 days, have one conversation per day with different people about Rage Club. The conversation might go something like this:
"I am so happy that I am an angry person. I discovered that I am angry person after doing a Rage Club. Some of the things that changed in my life are that I finally cleaned out all my school work and diplomas that have been in boxes for the past 50 years, I finished this painting that I could never finish before, I called up my neighbor and asked him to remove the rubbish bin to somewhere else other than in front of my porch, and told work that I am no longer available to come in on Saturdays."
Whatever you say in this conversation must be true.
At the end of the conversation, you might even consider inviting the people you speak with to join you in the next Rage Club.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.09 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Take a photo of your Rage Club T-Shirt, upload it to a stock imagery site (like Pixabay or Unsplash), and share the link to the photo. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Most of us have been incredibly abused emotionally, energetically, verbally, physically or sexually. You might be one of these people. You might have decided as part of your survival strategy that because nobody was taking care of you, you would not take care of you either. Now that you are on a path of Adulthood initiation, you can no longer afford to not take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself is part of the program.
Your Anger is necessary for this. The first way to take care of yourself is by making boundaries.
This is a 7-day experiment. Every day, start your day by noticing right now how you are not taking care of yourself because you have not made a boundary with this person about this and that person about that. Write each of these down.
Then over the course of the week, make these boundaries. Do not do this by message. Make the boundaries in person or by phone or video call. How do you share a boundary with someone? Here are some examples:
Or it could be a boundary with your partner, like: "Please do not talk about my mother anymore."
Whatever the other person says afterward, you say, "Thank you." If they argue about the boundary, you can use this as another opportunity to set another boundary by saying, "This conversation is over."
When you make the necessary boundaries, you will find that you can enter a way of being outside of survival and actually have living and breathing space.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.10 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Write an article about your life-changing, boundary-making week, post it online publicly, and share the link. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
The words ‘I want’ have been banished from the vocabulary of modern nice citizens. Why? Because 'I want' puts you at risk. It reveals your cards. It puts a clear, vulnerable, decisive statement on the table.
Instead of 'I want,' you make it polite by saying ‘I would like.’ You make it impersonal by saying 'What if we did this.' You disown it by saying, 'What do you want?' You make it into a child-ego-contaminated victim story by saying 'I need.'
Ongoingly for 3 consecutive days in each of your conversations, say something you want. There is always something even if you do not think there is. Instead of disguising your want in any of the manipulative phrases above or covertly seducing your conversation partner to guess what you want, use your conscious Anger to be clear and radically honest about what you want. That means starting sentences with the words, 'I want...'
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.11 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
From ants and pigeons to elephants and lions, there is anger in every single species of animal. It is part of the design. Your job is to observe this firsthand.
For this experiment, go to the Zoo for one whole day alone. Start by noticing that there are some animals inside of cages and some outside of cages. The animals outside of cages include pigeons, seagulls, ants, possibly a mouse. They are free to wander inside and outside of the cages, coming and going as they please. Then there are the animals inside cages: Fish in tanks, seals in aquatic areas, big cats in fenced off cages, simians in walled-in spaces, reptiles behind glass displays.
Study the behavior of both the uncaged and the captive animals, keeping special attention on exhibitions of anger. Many of the captive animals have lived such abused lives that they are inactive and neurotically surrendered in their cages. Try to find some animals who have not yet slipped into total passivity, and observe these. You will find them if you look.
Clinton was at the San Diego zoo alone studying the great gorillas that were in an open grass hill and then a mote and then a wall. A family with two children, a mother, and a father dressed in a suit came up and stood staring at one of the gorillas. The gorilla in turn stood staring directly at the man. Clinton stood on the side, observing the interaction. With very subtle movements, without losing eye contact, the gorilla slowly put his hand behind his back and moved it slightly. It turned out he was reaching for a pile of shit, which he then flung at the man, hitting him square in the chest. This was the behavior of an angry gorilla and a stupid man.
This type of incident is rare. You can detect subtler, more common behaviors. Notice things like animals scratching themselves neurotically, biting or shaking their cages, running back and forth violently, pacing in their cages, or making faces at people.
After this, write a 2 - 3 page article about what you noticed at the zoo that includes distinctions and observations about what you experienced.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.12 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Post the link to your article. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
Purchase a brush, some acrylic paints, and paper. In this experiment, you will be taking the alchemical action of making your anger conscious by painting scenes from your anger.
Before painting, connect with what you have anger about. This could include:
For each of these angers, paint between 2 and 5 separate paintings. These paintings could stand alone or they could be part of a series.
Next, show the paintings to people. Hang them on a wall in your home, or make a presentation of them at your next Possibility Team. When people ask about the paintings, share about this experiment and share about your anger.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.13 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Find a free online gallery, post your paintings there, and then share the link to the gallery. This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
This experiment could be done in a Possibility Team or with your children or with friends.
To start, meet outside. Ask everyone on your team to bring an object that does not have much value, so it would not be a problem if it were destroyed. This could be a telephone book or an old pair of shoes or a sweater or old sheets.
Start by inviting the team to turn up their anger and turn up your own. Then, have everyone grab an item from the pile and use their conscious rage to destroy it. Rip it apart, bash it on the floor, tear into with your teeth and nails, bodyslam it, smash it your feet, turn it into confetti, throw it around. You can even exchange objects with other people or trade your item for someone else's item. This is a form of Teamwork and working together.
This is a way to experience and express Schadenfreude, a compound German word that translates into Damage Joy. (English has no single word for this, which may explain a lot about the American psyche.)
At the end, take a team photo with your High-Level Fun anger destruction and upload it to Facebook, Instagram, Medium, Unsplash, or somewhere else where you can grab a link.
After completing this experiment, please register Matrix Code RAGECLUB.14 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. For proof: Send a link of your photo. This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Rage Club Is 'Phase 1 Of Feelings Work'.
Phase 1 of Feelings Work Is A Doorway To Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes.
Adulthood Is Where 'Phase 2 Of Feelings Work' Begins.
But Possibility Management Is Not About Feelings Work...
It Just Begins There.
Possibility Management Is About Managing What Is Possible.
Gaining These Skills Is When Your Path Heads Out Over Far Horizons...